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January 16 2007 - January 19 2007
Is it never too late, to know an angel
Shannon Elizabeth was sent down to us from Heaven January 16th, 2007. Here is Shannon's story from the very begining . . . In the summer of 2006, I hadn't been feeling good a lot. I had just recieved a promotion at work and had been working a lot of midnight shifts. They were so hard to get used to from the normal 7 to 3's. I figured my body was just getting used to the change and blamed the recent sickness on that. I was at my mother's house one afternoon. I told my mom how sick I had been feeling lately. She suggested I take a pregnancy test. She had one left over in the bathroom from my oldest sister, who was about 7 months pregnant at the time. I took it, never really thinking I could ever be pregnant. It was positive. I didn't want to start to get to excited, I heard stories about pregnancy test not being accurate before so I made an appointment with my OBGYN. About a week later, I came home from work one morning and could not stop vomitting. I had horrible cramps. I thought "If you are pregnant, you're having a miscarriage." My fiance and I rushed down to the hospital. I was so scared. So many things ran through my mind, "What if I am pregnant? What if I am losing the baby? What will I do?" The doctor came in and started to tell me I had food poisoning. What a relief, but I wasn't still sure if I was pregnant, so I asked. He said "Yes." as if to say "oh you didn't know." That's when we both started to really get excited. We went for our first ultrasound to get a better due date. January 23rd was our due date. A couple days before both of our birthday's. How cool was that. I just loved it.
The next couple months were terrible. I was constantly sick. I had no appetite. I didn't want anything to do with food, but ate anyways knowing my baby needed it. My body was changing so fast. I slowly started to collect small things for the baby. I went out and bought a new vehicle. I needed a bigger car if I was going to be carrying around a baby and diaper bag, and putting a car seat in and out. We moved to a bigger house. We needed a room for our baby's nursery. One I could decorate. I gave up my promotion. I took a desk job so I wouldn't be out in the field with my big belly. Life was falling into place.
We went for an ultrasound in the fall. We were so excited. By this time we could already feel the baby kicking. I just wanted to know what I was having so I could starting buying outfits, toys, all that good stuff. We went to have the ultrasound that morning without a care in the world. We took a video tape to record the ultrasound. This was going to be the best day in the world! The tech started doing the ultrasound. She was taking a long time, like she was having trouble. She said she couldn't find her stomach and I might have to go to a different hospital. I didn't care, I just wanted to know what it was! The baby had it's legs crossed and she couldn't tell. She finished up and told me to go back downstairs to my OBGYN's office. The secretary was running around like a nut, asking me if I could go down to the other hospital RIGHT NOW, because she could get me in RIGHT NOW. My doctor came in the room and was asking the same thing. Then he asked Steve and I if anyone had mentioned anything about a hernia. We told him no, but he didn't reply, just told us to get down to the other hospital and he would call ahead. On the twenty minute ride down to the hospital, I wasn't scared, just dissapointed that I still didn't know what I was having. Steve, I think, seemed uneasy. He called our boss to tell him we would be later getting back to work than we thought. He told Steve of a couple who just had a baby with a hernia and the baby was fine, no big deal. My mom has a hernia, she's alive. My nephew had a hernia too, he's alive. What was the big deal?
As we walked into the ultasound waiting room, we noticed that it was packed! So many people were in there. We walked up to the counter and I signed in. "Oh, the doctor called for you." was the response I recieved from the secretary. People all around us were complaining about their long wait. Ten minutes later, my name was called. We followed the technician back to the room. As she prepped me, a doctor walked in. He said " I am not going to talk to you throughout this. When I am done, we will talk." I replied " That's fine, while you're there, do you think you can see what it is, the other lady couldn't tell." He did that first, got a straight shot between the legs. "It's a girl." I justed wanted to scream with excitement. A little girl, my little girl. I started thinking about eveything I was going to do with her, what she was going to be, what she was going to play, how she was going to dress. The doctor finished up, the sonogram took what seemed like forever. He started to tell us about how our baby had a Congenital Diaphragmatic Hernia. He went on to say her Diaphragm did not grow correctly somewhere between 7 and 8 weeks and her stomach, liver, intestines and bowel were in her chest cavity, pushing her heart to the right side and not giving her lungs any room to grow. He said she would probably die at birth. I stopped listening. I don't know where I went, but I wished it wasn't there. He told us we only had a couple weeks to decide what to do. It was becoming too late to have an abortion, but it was still an option at this point. I just remember thinking, "How dare you say that, not my little girl." He said if he continued the pregnancy, it would be a long road, but we had to meet with a Genetic Counselor. The doctor left, the technician printed out some pictures and told us she would be back. I cleaned my belly as I weeped and got up to go to Steve. We both just cried, we didn't speak. The technician came back some time later and took us to go speak to the Genetic Counselor. She rambled on about the illness and routes to go and what to do, but I didn't listen. I was in a fog, I just wanted to leave. I didn't want to be there. She kept asking if we had questions. I had none. I didn't believe what was going on. She gave us her card and we left.
We drove to my Mom and Dad's. The next day my little sister was leaving for college and we were all going out to dinner that night. We told them as they cried. We all sat at the table and cried. Dinner was somber. No one knew what to say to anyone. So we didn't say much at all. Later that night, Steve and I just layed in bed and cried. We knew abortion was not an option. We came this far, and for good or bad, we were having our girl, even if it was for a moment. Neither of us slept that night, he went to work early and I went on the computer. I wanted to know eveything I could. I called the counselor the next day, full of questions at this point, ready to hear it all. I told her of our plans and wanted to know how to go about them. She told me of everything that needed to be done and that she would be in the hospital for a long time possibly, once she was born. That day, we started our long, bumpy road.
The next couple months were full of doctor appointments. I had an amniocentesis done. We had to rule out all other medical problems. If it was just the hernia she had a better chance at life. The amnio came back normal and reassured us we were having a girl. We spoke with doctors who would be there at the time of her delivery. They told us how the hospital sees this illness atleast once a week and they have never had a baby die from it. We had an echocardigram done to check her heart. Everything looked good. We had ultrasounds done once a week. Everytime we went everything looked as good as could be, nothing ever changed much, which was a positive thing. We decided not to have a baby shower. We would have one as soon as she got home from the hospital. We picked out her name. I picked out Shannon and Steve picked out Elizabeth. We didn't buy anything for Shannon really, her death was always in the back of our minds, but we honestly didn't see it happening. Shannon continued to put on weight. I always wanted to know how much she weighed when we went for her ultrasounds, it made me feel better. She was constantly kicking me. She moved so much, even the nurses commented on how active she was. Steve would come home everyday and talk to her. She loved hearing his voice, she would go nuts! At night I would lay beside him on my side, and she would go to town on him! I played with her, I would poke and she would kick. We planned as best as we could for her delivery. I was going to be induced. All the doctors would be there. Shannon was gaining weight, had no other problems, chances of her living were better and better. It all seemed to be going good.
January 16th, 2007 at 2 o'clock in the morning we got our telephone call to come in. We were there by 3:30 am. We waited as other mother's in labor passed infront of us, never a doubt in our minds. At 5:30 they started me on Pitocin. At 5:45 I was having contractions. They were definately not as bad as I thought. By 8:30 I had asked for an Epidural. They broke my water around 9:00 and assured me this was going to take atleast 8 to 12 hours. I relaxed for about an hour. I told the nurse I thought the epidural was wearing off because I could feel pain. She told me to flip over and it might help. I could still feel pain and she told me there was no way I was dilated. She checked me, I think just to shut me up. I was fully dilated by about 10:00. She ran around the room getting everything ready and making phone calls. All of the doctors arrived and by 10:27 Shannon Elizabeth was born. My doctor layed her on my belly and she was quickly taken away. I tried to watch as the intubated her, but it was hard. They rolled her away to the NICU downstairs. About two hours later, they told Steve to go ahead down to see her before she went to the Children's Hospital. He went down and took some pictures and video for me. Shannon weighed 7 pounds 8 oz. They told Steve how the first 24 hours is what they call the "Honeymoon", everything seems okay on the outside but shortly after, it falls apart. I stayed up most of the night, trying to pump and just being uncomfortable. The next morning Steve called the Children's Hospital NICU and talked to Shannon's nurse. She told him how last night Shannon did good, but her stats started to drop a little by this morning, but she was still doing fine. At 7:45 the NICU doctor called, someone needed to get over to Children's as soon as possible. Steve got dressed, didn't even eat and walked to Children's. I called my parents and told them I thought something might be wrong, but I wasn't sure, and I needed a ride to Children's. They were going to let me go to Children's on a sort of hall pass, but I had to be back that night by a certain time. I slowly ate and got a shower and dressed. The time passed, I still wasn't that worried, maybe just in denial. Around 9:00 I called for Steve at the NICU, I hadn't heard from him. They told me he had been in a meeting with the doctors but that they would give him a message. He called back not long after that. He told me I needed to get over to Children's. I asked why, he just kept repeating for me to get there. His voice was calm and quiet. I knew something was wrong. I just kept asking why, getting louder and louder. All I heard was "She only has a one percent chance to live . . ." I stopped listening again. I just cried. I never cried so hard before.
When I got to the hospital, they started to tell me about how she had a heart defect also, something called Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome. A big word just to describe that the left part of her heart didn't grow and that her aorta was narrowed. They were giving her medicine to keep her PDA, an extra vavlve in the heart every baby has but closes shortly after birth, open. We could have done aggressive medical intervention, but the doctor told us there was pretty much no hope. No one had ever seen a baby with this combination survive. So the only thing to do was wait until we were ready to stop her life support. Steve and I sat there all day. We slept at the hospital and got up early to be at her side. We stayed with her as late we physically could, just to be up and do it again the next day. While by her side, I would put chapstick on her lips (which were exactly like mine) and put a water swab in her mouth so her tongue wouldn't be so dry. I even changed her diaper a couple times. A sister came in and she was baptized. The nurses stayed with us. They described everything to us and even shared their own experiences. January 19th, we made the decision to stop her life support at some point that day when we were ready. First, I gave her a bath. I combed her full head of hair. I changed her diaper. I put lotion all over the left side of her body, and Steve put it on the right. Her nurse bought her an outfit that said "Angel Bebe", it even had angel wings attached to the back of it. We took about a million foot prints from her. The nurse insisted on having the perfect pair. We stopped her medicines about 8 or 9 that night and held her while she was still on her vent. We put a ring around her finger. It was a small ring, but still too big for her fingers so we had to use tape. An angel baby's parents had supplied the hosiptal with rings for situations like ours. She kept opening up her eyes, the first we'd seen them. Almost like she knew we were there and she was off all of that medicine. Like she was happy. She had blue eyes just like Steve and I. I talked to her for the first time. I told her that she could go and that I would be okay. I told her she had to promise me that every baby she sends down for me has to have a part of her, but that the next baby had to have her nose. She had such a cute nose. I went into a waiting room and Steve stayed with her as the nurse removed her tubes. He told me how she held his hand so tight. He brought her into me, still alive. I held her so close and cried. The doctor came in to check her. She held on for about twenty minutes. She was pronounced dead at 11:15. After she passed, I just held her and sang to her. I took her back to her bed, so proud that I was holding her. Steve cut some of her hair and we took her picture all layed out. I put her cross necklace on her and took off her ring and Steve put it on my necklace. My brother in law is a Funeral Director and his boss came and picked Shannon up. Michael kept her company the next couple days as we went out and bought her a beautiful dress and blanket to be buried in. I worked on a collage for her viewing with all the pictures from the hospital. While she was at the funeral home they even got her handprints for us. She looked perfect. She had no makeup on and had such rosy cheeks. I was so proud as I stood next to her for that day, so proud to show off my beautiful angel. Our family and friends shared our grief as they came to see what we had created. The pastor wrote a song just for Shannon. She sang it in the chapel before we left to go to the cemetary. It snowed the day we buried her. We decided on a cemetary that had an infant section and was out in the country. We had a graveside service. We realesed a dove also. Everything was so beautiful, just like Shannon.
Shannon will never be forgotten. We miss her so much but know where she is, there is no pain. We love you.
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